2/3/16

May the bridges you burn lighten your way...



 "May the bridges you burn lighten your way, and the whisky you drink warm your bones"


Growing up I was always told, "Don't burn your bridges, you never know when you might need to cross the river again.". While sage advice, I have to say that there are some bridges that need to be burned. Burning bridges isn't something to be taken lightly, but sometimes it's the only thing left to do. 

Taking the fist step onto a bridge is not always easy. Some bridges we cross with ease, sometimes not realizing until much later, if ever, that we have even crossed one. Some are exciting and crossed with exuberance, while others are dreaded and fretted about yet necessary.

The ones that are the scariest are the ones that pop up suddenly. Appearing and seeming higher and longer than the rest. And no matter how long we look for another way across, this bridge is the only way to proceed forward. To not cross would mean that you are stuck somewhere you don't particularly care to be. Somewhere in which you cannot trust, where bonds have been broken. It's a cold and dark place that is swirling with pain and discourse. In order for you to proceed forward in your journey to a better place, you must cross this bridge. There is no other option. Once you cross this bridge, in order for the darkness to not reach you again, and cause you more pain, you must burn this bridge.

Knowing that burning this bridge is the only choice you have, doesn't make it easy. That doesn't mean that you don't have a heavy heart when you light that match, or when you turn your back to take the first step away.  It's doesn't mean that you will instantly be free of the pain you incurred. It will take time to heal and time to process the fact that this path can no longer be traveled or revisited. A shard of sadness may always prick you when you think of the good times you had before you burned the bridge, but only momentarily. Your heart knows that this was for the better, and to move forward and be happy in this harsh world in which we live, it was necessary.

When I saw this photo it made perfect sense. That even though we have to burn a bridge here or there, we shouldn't stay and dwell over the ashes. We should use the light from this burning bridge to help light the way to our next place of happiness, to keep moving forward. Use the memory and pain of this burning bridge to help guide you in future adventures.

I suppose the whiskey is just a bonus!


XOXO
CoreyJo


















2 comments:

  1. That is great advice. I usually never burn bridges professionally, but I agree in your private and personal life they do sometimes need to be burned. So glad to see you piping up again. I miss your blogs. I also thank you for remembering me at Christmas😁😁😁 I never got around to doing greetings. Xoxo

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    1. Thank you, Doll!

      I agree, professionally you just grin and bear it, but you get to go home at night and check that shit at the door. In your private life, it stays with you and eats away at you. Even if there's love, sometimes it's just healthier to burn that bridge.

      I'm glad you got the card! I'm horrid at sending out greetings. When I do, how could I ever forget you, the one who introduced me to liquid eyeliner?! My life has never been the same! LOL.

      It feels good to be here, I'm going to have to do this more often.

      XOXO
      CJ

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