Change:
Verb (used without object);
1.
To become different.
2.
To become altered or modified.
3.
To become transformed or converted.
Noun;
4.
The act or fact of changing; fact of being
changed.
5.
A variation or deviation.
Change. Life changes. People change. Circumstances change.
Moods change. Ways of thinking change…..
So many things about life change, it’s inevitable. Most of
the time we are not aware of the changes that occur in our day to day lives.
Kids grow up, we get grey hairs (yes, these two things go hand in hand). The
foods we like to eat, the activities we participate in. The way we do things
changes with time, whether it’s from gaining knowledge or from just us changing
as we grow physically and emotionally.
Without change life would become stagnate. Change in
general is not always a bad thing. It can bring wonderful things with it. Joy
and happiness come with change. As do pain and sadness sometimes.
Even though things and life around us are constantly changing
we as humans tend to become secure in our lives. We do our daily tasks because
that’s what needs to be done. We go to work or stay home and care for our
families because that’s our roll in life. We go out with friends, take family
vacations because that’s what we do for fun. Most of us in the world today live
our lives from day to day and take comfort in our futures of our lives. Sure,
we know the kids will grow up and leave the nest someday, but it’s not always
on our minds. We know that we will eventually grow old and possibly feeble. We
know that someday we will have to retire or change our careers to better fit
our physical selves. It’s called life. It’s just how it is.
We take life’s changes with a grain of salt most of the
time. Sometimes life’s changes are less like a grain of salt and more like an iceberg.
You can’t just brush it off and move on. You can’t just pick yourself up and
say, “Oh well.”, and then move on with the changes. Sometimes the changes that
happen in your life sideline you. You’re so lost with what has happened in your
life that you just don’t know where to go, what to do, let alone what to say.
You don’t have that security in your future because you don’t know or
understand how the future can possibly be in any way how you had always
imagined it to be.
When life hits you with these iceberg sized changes that
hurt you to the point of numbness you turn to your loved ones to help you
through. To pick you up and point you in the right direction. Sometimes you don’t
have that. You don’t have the support you thought you would have. You feel
alone like you’ve never felt alone before. You’re scared because you just don’t
know what to do.
When this happens, we must remember that there is always
someone out there who can help us. Who can support us and help us to think
straight again. Who will be our friend and tell us it’s okay to hurt, even if it
feels like we are dying. Society, as a whole, are a lonely bunch of people and
we need to remember that we are only alone if we allow ourselves to be alone.
Back to change. Everyone who knows me knows that I have
had life hit me with a huge change that blessed me and devastated me. When I
lost my daughter at the age of 2 I didn’t know how my life could go on (that’s
the devastation part). When I began to heal from the loss of my daughter I began
to realize how blessed I was. In the two years she was alive she was our family’s
shining star. Once she was gone and the devastation of her loss began to move
the background of my emotions (I say this because the devastation is always
there, I have just learned how to move forward and function at life again) I
realized how in those two short years I learned so much from my daughter. I
learned what was important in life. I learned not to sweat the small stuff. I
learned how to love unconditionally in a way I hadn’t quite grasped consciously
with the first two daughters. I learned how to forgive and to move forward.
It took a while for our lives, as a family, to balance
back out. I was able to live again. This horrible change in my life did not
stop me permanently. I was able to overcome the grief and live again. I took
this change and tried to learn from it. I tried to become a better person. Not only
to others but to myself. As time went on I became secure in my life and my
future again…..
Change. It’s something that is inevitable. It always
happens. Again, I have been hit with a change in my life that has altered my
future. A change that has floored me yet again. As I begin to process this
change I have come to a few conclusions. I am not alone. I might feel extremely
lonely at times, but I know I am not alone. I have my Peeps, and I must tell
you, my Peeps are some of the best Peeps a woman could have. Another conclusion
I have come to is that no matter how uncertain and scary my future may look
right now, I know without a doubt that I will survive. Not only will I survive,
I will thrive. With this change in my life I must believe in ME. If I don’t,
there is no hope for a happy future. I must not doubt my self-worth. I may not
always like myself, physically and or emotionally, but I know deep down that I
am worth it. I deserve the best. I have given my everything to the life that I have
led. Have I been perfect, no. I am only human. I must believe that this change
in my life has happened for a reason. It may be a reason that I don’t quite
understand yet, but a reason none the less.
Change happens, and we are powerless to stop it. However,
we do have the power to move forward from change in any way we wish to. I am
choosing to move forward in a positive way. I am choosing to use this change to
grow as a woman. Instead of letting this change dictate the person I become
afterward I am dictating how and who I am going to be after this change.
Change. Good or bad we can’t control it sometimes, but we
can control how it changes us. Just remember that you always have peeps out
there who love you and care about you. If you don’t think you have any peeps,
just let me know. I’ll be your peep.
-Corey Canning
